It’s not always about you.

After last week’s blog about the first Agreement in The Four Agreements by don Miguel Ruiz, a dear friend of mine suggested I blog about the other three Agreements (if you didn’t read it, last week I posted my take on “Be Impeccable with Your Word”). I think it’s a great idea. So, let’s do this. The second Agreement in the book is…

Don’t Take Anything Personally.

I swear if you could just incorporate these first two agreements into your life…wow…what a change I believe you would see. So let’s break this down. As humans, we take EVERYTHING personally. A guy cuts you off in the parking lot? That’s personal. The guy in front of you driving too slow? That’s personal. Your client at work writes you a nasty email? Personal. Someone says they don’t like your new hairstyle? Oh yea, that’s personal. We take these things personally and we let them affect our lives. We suffer from them. We judge ourselves because of them. And we often become ‘un-impeccable’ with our word to them and to ourselves because of it. (See what I did there? As you can see, these Agreements are all interconnected…)

We assume that everything someone else does is because of us. But it’s not. Truth is, as don Miguel says, “What others say and do is a projection of their own reality.” Maybe that guy that cut you off had a massive fight with his spouse this morning and is feeling guilty as hell and mad because he feels guilty. So, in order to make himself feel better, he lashes out and tries to make someone else feel worse. Maybe that client who sent you the nasty email just absolutely hates his job and subconsciously (or not) needs someone else to hate his too. Maybe that chick that hates your new hairstyle really likes it and wants it but she grew up in a family that didn’t teach her how to be nice so instead she lashes out at you. The point here is, it’s not always about you, and…

That’s their S#%T…

By making it about you, you become a victim. You become trapped in a world where everyone else dictates how you feel. So what should you do? As they say on The Sopranos…Forget about it! (has more impact if you say it like Tony…) Forget about the actions and opinions of others. They’re their actions and opinions. They are manifesting their own realities and dreams. And they may not make sense to you, but they don’t have to. The only opinions and actions that you need to worry about are your own. Forget about them…

Just be you.

In Munay…