In his book The Four Agreements, don Miguel Ruiz lays out four Agreements we can make with ourselves in order to start living the life we dream of. The Agreements are really quite simple…and really quite hard. The first Agreement is my favorite and, in my opinion, the one that can most easily completely change your life. It reads:
Be Impeccable with Your Word
Be impeccable with your word. Speak authentically. Speak with love. Speak with kindness. In other words, don’t talk trash. So, talking trash directly to someone is pretty obvious. Here’s an example. Someone looks at you and says, “That dress looks like crap on you.” That’s talking trash. That person is not being impeccable with their words. They are being hurtful and mean.
In the Shamanic community, we refer to this as Black Magic. By saying something mean, hurtful, or negative to someone else, we’re using Black Magic. But, those mean and hurtful things don’t need to be said directly to that person. Another example. Suppose I’m driving down the road and the guy in front of me is driving really slow and making me late so I say, in my car to myself, “For crying out loud! Move it buddy! Get the @$#%& our of my way!” There too I’m not being impeccable with my word. I’m using Black Magic against that person in front of me. And they don’t even know it! The thing is, in this energetic world that we live in, even though they don’t hear my words, if they’re in a not so good place at that moment? Those words, that Black Magic, can worm its way in to their vibration.
Now, those examples above are how we use Black Magic with others. What I don’t think most of us get is just how often we use it on ourselves. Think about it. When you wake up in the morning and look at yourself in the mirror, or step on the scale, or try on a pair of jeans, or try to fix your hair, what do you say to yourself? If I wake up every morning, look in the mirror and say, “Ugh. I look like crap! I’m old and fat!” What am I doing to myself? Yep. I’m NOT being impeccable with my words to MYSELF. I’m using Black Magic on myself.
When don Miguel Ruiz tells us to Be Impeccable with Our Words, he means ALL our words. To and about others, to and about the world around us, and to and about ourselves. Imagine the world you could create if you just…
Stopped talking trash. To anyone.