If you can’t say anything nice…do it anyway.

Okay, I’ve totally written this blog before…or a version of it…but it’s really worth repeating so here goes.

I have a kind of goal-oriented planner called a Dreambook (dragontreeapothecary.com). Inside, there are these weekly page spreads with a place to list things you’re grateful for each day. I’ve mentioned before, I use the word ‘appreciation’ instead of ‘gratitude’, or, I just use the word ‘love’ as in “what did/do I love about today?” Every night, as I’m falling asleep, I try to spend a few minutes listing all the things I loved that day. It kind of sets the tone for a great night’s sleep. Then, in the morning and throughout the day, I try to take a few minutes to write down things I love as I move through that day. And you know what?

It REALLY helps. It REALLY makes a difference.

Now, when I talk to some people (maybe those whom may not be in the best place) about doing this, they think I’m nuts. They say, “I can’t find anything to appreciate or love!” And my response is always, “Sure you can,” and

“If you can’t say anything nice…do it anyway.”

The truth is, when you’re first starting out with something like this, you sometimes really have to reach for it. Sometimes, it’s really hard to find something to appreciate or love. Do it anyway. If the only thing you can find to love about your day is the fact that you woke up, so be it. That’s one thing. If the only thing you can find to love about your day is that the printer didn’t jam, so be it. That’s another.

The point is, to get in the habit of finding things that are good, things that you can appreciate, things that you love. And it’s completely fine if you really do have to start small. So, I invite you to conduct an experiment. Every night, right before you fall asleep, make a mental list of the things you appreciated or loved about your day. Or, you could keep a small journal, or mark it on your calendar, or hell, a napkin will do. Just write down, every day, three things you loved about your day. Do this for a week and notice how things start to change. For the first few days, some of you may have trouble coming up with three. But then watch as it gets easier and easier. Before you know it, you’ll be noticing all the things you love all the time.

I’ll start you off:
I love that I opened my eyes this morning to a large wet dog nose. I love that my Hubby wore his pink shirt today because he looks awesome in it. I love that my boy dog just looked at me when I came in to the living room and wagged his tail. I love that I had a quick, but inspiring conversation with a good friend this morning. I love the coconut water that I’m drinking. I love the fountain pen I use to write with. I love that the sun is shining.

Now you:

I love…

In Munay…

Who’s to blame?

Emotional weekend for some, including myself. This weekend, I found myself saddened, confused, angered, and stunned by the words and actions of others.

Let me say a portion of that again. ‘This weekend I was stunned BY the words and actions of others.’ Now I’ll say it in a different way: ‘This weekend I was stunned BECAUSE of the words and actions of others.’ It’s a slight difference, but there is a difference. So, which sentence is correct?

It’s the first one. Here’s why. You cannot blame someone else for the way you feel. So, if I say, ‘I was stunned BY the words and actions of others,’ I’m explaining how I felt after hearing those words and seeing those actions. I’m taking responsibility for those feelings, for my feelings. If I say, ‘I was stunned BECAUSE of the words and actions of others,’ I’m saying that they caused me to feel this way. I’m making them responsible for how I feel. I’m blaming them. And I’m usually demanding that they do something about it. I’m demanding that they change so I can feel better. But the truth is…

You’re to blame for how you feel and you’re responsible for making yourself feel better.

It is your perception of what someone else says or does or doesn’t say or doesn’t do that causes any emotion within you. You have control over that emotion. How you feel about something isn’t anyone else’s fault but your own. And it’s not their job to fix it. Now, I’m not saying that you shouldn’t have an emotional reaction to something that you feel is wrong, or mean, or unjust. I did all weekend! What I am saying is you get to choose how you feel about it and you get to choose what you do about it. If you don’t like something, take responsibility and figure out how to change it!

So, here’s my question for you. If you’re feeling bad about something that’s going on around you, are you going to blame someone else, fight against, and demand they change so you feel better? Or, are you going to…

Reach for a better feeling thought yourself and make your own change.

It really is your choice.

In Munay…

Come on get happy.

For the past couple of weeks, probably since the first of the new year, my daily Abraham-Hicks quotes have been really long. Like three or four paragraphs long. They’ve been going in to a bit of detail about how the Law of Attraction works. Like they’re really trying to get us to understand the concept. Don’t get me wrong, the quotes have been great, just really long. Then, the other day, I wake up and see the quote of the day and it’s this:


“Appreciation is the magic formula you’ve been seeking.” –Abraham


And I actually laughed out loud. I laughed because that one line says it all. And I laughed because for most of us, something that simple and straight forward just isn’t enough.

As humans, we crave detailed instruction. We need to know EXACTLY how to do something. We need to see an ‘a.’ then a ‘b.’ then a ‘c.’ It’s the same when we start to study the Law of Attraction. We need to know EXACTLY how to make the Law of Attraction work for us. We need to know what to say, what to think, and how to act in order to make the things we want appear. We say, “Tell me what I need to do to manifest the things I want.” And we get out a pad of paper and a pen and get ready to take notes. Because we KNOW that the steps we need to go through in order to ‘get our stuff’ are going to be big, and hard, and detailed, and extensive.

Based on the quotes from the past couple of weeks Abraham-Hicks gets that we need direction. But obviously, at least in my opinion, they also have a sense of humor. For the past couple of weeks, we’ve been reading and re-reading those long involved quotes trying to break down all the things within them that we need to do. What a relief it was to be reminded that we really don’t.

Today’s quote from them? “When you are comfortable on your path, it doesn’t matter where it leads.” Yep, laughing out loud again. The other day a friend posted on FB the beginning musical sequence to an old show we all used to watch…at least those in my age group did….and I’ve been singing the song ever since. So here you go:

a. “Hello world there’s a song that we’re singin’, Come on get happy!”

That’s it.


In Munay…

Embrace a wonky head.

So some of you may not know this, but in addition to being a Shamanic Practitioner, I’m also an Animal Communicator. “What does that mean?” you ask? It means I talk with animals. Weird, right? Actually it’s pretty awesome. I communicate with animals of all shapes and sizes and find out what they’re here to teach us. (And that IS why they’re here. To teach us…) But, that’s not the point of this blog. Here’s the point. When I work with humans and animals I’m working on an energetic level. So yes, I’m in the room with the human and sometimes the animal, but I’m also in my head. And in order to be ‘in my head’, I kind of have to get out of my head.

When I work with a client, I need to get myself in to a very quiet space. I don’t mean physically though. I need to ‘drop in’ as we call it and let everything around me go. I need to become completely open. I have to completely let go of control, let go of the 3-D world around me, in order to see, hear, feel, know what my client (again, human or animal) is trying to tell me or show me energetically. Not always an easy thing to do.

So the other day I was dealing with a slight cold and had that total disconnected head feeling and I had to work with a client. You know that feeling? When you’re just not completely in charge of your brain? Things are coming to you very slowly? You feel just a little bit wonky? That’s how I was feeling. So I was thinking there’s no WAY I’m going to be able to read this client. But, as it turns out, it was one of the best readings I’ve ever done. And I realized it was so easy…

because I was completely out of my head and therefore out of the way.

Because I was feeling wonky in my head, I had no choice but to let going of trying to make something happen. Because I had that disconnected head, I wasn’t able to concentrate. I wasn’t able to second guess myself, or check myself to make sure I was reading this right. Or, worst yet, try to force something to happen. I was just kind of ‘there’ watching and listening and feeling. And when you’re reading a client, that’s EXACTLY what you’re supposed to do. It’s not about me when I’m working, it’s about them. It was a big lesson for me.

I’m often asked how it is I can do what I do. And my answer is, anybody can do what I do. It just takes a lot of practice, a lot of trust in yourself, and the ability to get out of your own way. Much like life in general. We’re constantly in our own way. We’re constantly trying to MAKE something happen. And therefore, we’re constantly RESISTING things that are supposed to come to us easily. So what’s my advice today? Let go. And just see what happens.

Embrace a wonky head.

In Munay…

Sit back and enjoy the ride…

Happy New Year everyone! I love how ‘new beginnings’ always make us feel. We wake up on the 1st and say, “Okay! Let’s DO this! This year is MY year! Out with the old and in with the new! This year I’m gonna do ______ and I’m gonna get ________!” And really, we should say that. But why not say that every month? Or every week? How about every day? What if every day we woke up and said “Okay! This is gonna be MY day! WooHoo!” Imagine the difference it would make. But that isn’t really the point of this particular blog…I’ll get to that another time.

Here’s my point. One of the mistakes we all make this time of year, or at any new beginning is to make it into a really big deal. We HAVE to come up with a resolution. We HAVE to figure out all the bad things we’ve been doing to ourselves or in our lives and we HAVE to resolve to NOT do those things anymore. It’s very action based. ‘I’m going to DO this, and I’m going to DO this.’ But what if we just let go. What if we just decided to say, “Ah the hell with it! I’m just going to relax, let go, and see where life takes me. I’m just going to sit back and enjoy the ride.”

Today I’m going to leave you with an Abraham quote:


“Most rarely align with their true power, because it seems illogical to them that there is power in relaxation, in letting go, or in love or joy or bliss. Most people do not understand that their true power lies in releasing resistance—which is the only obstacle to their true power.

Most people do not expect their path to great abundance to be one of ease and of joy. They have been taught that struggle and hardship and sacrifice are requirements that must be met before the reward of great abundance can be realized. Most do not understand that the very struggle they deliberately involve themselves in, in their quest for success and advantage, actually works against them.

There are so many things that you have been taught to believe that are counter to the powerful Laws of the Universe that it is difficult for you to think your way out. And that is the reason that we present this path of much less resistance.

We want you to breathe rather than try, to relax rather than offer effort, to smile rather than struggle, to be rather than do. For your true power is experienced only from inside the Vortex.” —Abraham


So, even though it seems illogical.

Let’s all just sit back and enjoy the ride.

In Munay…