Those of you who know me know I really enjoying reading books that help you ‘expand’ both in your everyday efficiency and your mental efficiency. Not just regular self help books, but the deep, thought provoking ones where you sometimes have to read a paragraph four times before you think you get what they’re trying to tell you. So I just read this awesome book called The Well Life by Briana and Dr. Peter Borten (dragontreeapothecary.com or you can also get it on Amazon). It’s extremely practical in that it teaches you great ways to achieve goals, but it also teaches you a bit of the spirituality around achieving goals. (If you’re at all in to this kind of thing, do yourself a favor and check it out.) So there was this chapter on Self Care and it talked about being in the moment (something I struggle with a lot) and it asked the question:
“What would I do if I were intent on getting the most possible enjoyment from this activity?”
In other words, whatever activity you’re doing, or whatever is happening around you right now, really give it everything you’ve got. ‘Be’ in it. Notice how you ‘feel.’ Find all the parts and pieces of it. Now, as they say in the book, it’s pretty easy to do that when you’re enjoying the activity, right? I mean, it’s not hard to really enjoy a long walk on a beautiful sunny beach, or a fabulous dinner with a loved one or friends, or a loving snuggle from your dog. Those are easy things to give your all to.
But it got me thinking. What if we were to do the same thing with something that sucks? As humans, when something sucks, we want that thing to be over with as soon as possible. We close our eyes, we try desperately to avoid looking at it. We try to break through it. We imagine we’re somewhere else. Well, what if we didn’t? What if we did the same thing with the bad things as we do with the good? What if we used the bad things to help us learn and grow and create?
Now, I’m not saying wallow in the bad stuff. That’s just keeping it in your vibration. What I am saying is ‘feel’ your way through the bad stuff and find the lesson in it. Then, figure out specifically what you want INSTEAD and turn in the direction of that.
When we study the Law of Attraction we see that there is contrast all around us. We know what we don’t want, therefore we know what we do want. So the contrast serves a purpose! When the crappy stuff happens, there’s an opportunity. Instead of running away from it, why not sit with it for a bit? How does it make me feel? What are all the parts and pieces of it? By doing that, we can get a much clearer and more detailed picture of what we DO want. Maybe if we sit with a situation and watch what happens when we do, we can more clearly figure out our next move. Maybe we can come out of it having learned a little bit. If we do so, maybe…
just maybe, our hearts and minds will grow three sizes that day…
(see what I just did there?)
Merry Christmas everyone….