It’s not them, it’s you.


So lately I’ve started to really get in to “Faster EFT”. It’s like regular EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique or Tapping), but with what I feel is a slightly more Law of Attraction bend if you will. Plus, well, it’s Faster…. Anyway, the founder of F-EFT, Robert Smith, puts out all these pretty cool videos ( and on YouTube). I was watching a few the other day and he said something that clicked. Now, I’ve heard this a hundred times before, but for some reason, this time, it REALLY clicked. So here it is. All the bad things, all the stuff, all the hurt feelings, all the stories, all the ‘plays’ that go on in your head are just that…

They’re in YOUR head. They’re YOUR stuff.

Those things aren’t put there by anyone else but you. And that leads me to part of an Abraham-Hicks quote that says, “They can’t vibrate in your experience.” Meaning, no one can make you feel or do anything without you choosing to do so. Which is what we usually do. We take what someone else did or said, to us or about us, and we give it a nice comfy room in our head. And we give it a long-term lease. We cling to it. We talk about it. We explain our behavior using it. We let it define who we are.

Now, don’t get me wrong. I know there are plenty of people out there that have had some pretty bad stuff happen to them. But here’s the thing. Those bad things are actually over. Yes, they happened, but they aren’t still physically happening. If they’re still affecting us, it’s only because we’re still keeping them in our minds. We’re still replaying them. We still have an attachment to them. We’re still allowing them to dictate how we think or feel or act. After all, without them, who would we be? But think about it. All those things that were done to us, or that we feel were done to us, are only still affecting us because we’re holding a space for them. It’s no longer someone else doing the bad stuff to us, we’re still doing it to ourselves.

It’s not them, it’s us.

So what do we do? We cut the cord. We let it go. We release it. We finally take responsibility for what we choose to keep in our head. We decide, once and for all, to let that shit go.

In Munay…