It’s not them, it’s you.


So lately I’ve started to really get in to “Faster EFT”. It’s like regular EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique or Tapping), but with what I feel is a slightly more Law of Attraction bend if you will. Plus, well, it’s Faster…. Anyway, the founder of F-EFT, Robert Smith, puts out all these pretty cool videos ( and on YouTube). I was watching a few the other day and he said something that clicked. Now, I’ve heard this a hundred times before, but for some reason, this time, it REALLY clicked. So here it is. All the bad things, all the stuff, all the hurt feelings, all the stories, all the ‘plays’ that go on in your head are just that…

They’re in YOUR head. They’re YOUR stuff.

Those things aren’t put there by anyone else but you. And that leads me to part of an Abraham-Hicks quote that says, “They can’t vibrate in your experience.” Meaning, no one can make you feel or do anything without you choosing to do so. Which is what we usually do. We take what someone else did or said, to us or about us, and we give it a nice comfy room in our head. And we give it a long-term lease. We cling to it. We talk about it. We explain our behavior using it. We let it define who we are.

Now, don’t get me wrong. I know there are plenty of people out there that have had some pretty bad stuff happen to them. But here’s the thing. Those bad things are actually over. Yes, they happened, but they aren’t still physically happening. If they’re still affecting us, it’s only because we’re still keeping them in our minds. We’re still replaying them. We still have an attachment to them. We’re still allowing them to dictate how we think or feel or act. After all, without them, who would we be? But think about it. All those things that were done to us, or that we feel were done to us, are only still affecting us because we’re holding a space for them. It’s no longer someone else doing the bad stuff to us, we’re still doing it to ourselves.

It’s not them, it’s us.

So what do we do? We cut the cord. We let it go. We release it. We finally take responsibility for what we choose to keep in our head. We decide, once and for all, to let that shit go.

In Munay…

Sometimes you have to break the rules.


I spent the morning with a friend who is also one of my teachers. I truly love learning from this woman because we have some sort of connection. You know those people in your life. The ones you completely understand that completely understand you. I love taking classes from her because somehow we both know to let the class go in whatever direction it’s going to go. She knows what needs to be covered in order to get the ‘certification,’ and she covers that part, but she also knows that, because it’s her and I, the potential for it to go in another, really cool direction is pretty high. And she’s good with that.

So, as I sit here in front of my computer, an hour or so after we finished up, I realize…I feel great. Yes, she took me in and out of a pretty wild meditation, so that’s part of the reason I feel so good, but I also feel so good because it’s sometimes beneficial to break the rules. It just makes you feel good! And isn’t that what it’s all about?

As kids, when we play, we make up our own games and rules. This stick is really a wand. This towel is really a cape. We’ll use this box as a throne. But as we grow older, the freedom to do that…to make it up as we go along…is beaten out of us. The stick can’t be a wand, it’s a stick and there are no such things as wands (although some of us know differently….). That towel is just a towel, the box just a box. We’re taught that it’s bad to deviate from the rules, or the path, or the direction laid out by those who came before us. We’re taught that ‘this is THE way to do it and you’re not doing it right if you don’t do it THIS way.’

But what if it’s not? And what if you are?

The question to ask is, how does in make you feel when you do it the right way? Now, I know if we had held our class the exact way we were supposed to this morning, I would have gotten a lot out of it. But I also know that by doing it the way we did this morning I got a LOT out of it.

What if you did ‘it’ the way you felt like doing ‘it’? And what if that made you feel really, really good. What if….

You broke the rules?

In Munay…

Wait for it….


Not sure if I’ve ever mentioned this before, but one of my favorite movies of all time is Joe vs the Volcano. Here’s the synopsis (spoiler alert): Joe, played by Tom Hanks, is told by a doctor that he has a brain cloud and is going to die. A business man approaches him and asks…since he’s going to die anyway…if he’d mind making an all expenses paid trip of a life time to an island in the South Pacific and jumping into a volcano to appease the native tribe living on the island so he, the business man, can get a certain element only found there, in order to make his semiconductors. Of course Joe accepts.

He travels via a sailboat captained by the businessman’s daughter, Patricia, played by Meg Ryan. While sailing, they go through a great storm and lose the crew and the boat. Patricia is out cold, Joe saves her, he’s floating there looking around, and his massive steamer trunks pop out of the water. Joe ties them together and they float to the island with the volcano. Once there, they fall in love of course and end up getting married at the lip of the volcano right before they both jump in. Not over yet…

The volcano spits them out and they go flying through the air and land in the water, together, unharmed. Patricia is amazed they’ve survived and is thrilled that they’re going to live a long happy life. But Joe? He can’t look at the positive. He says, ‘Well yea, but we’re gonna drown!’ And the steamer trunks pop up right next to them.

So once again they tie them together and are floating under this amazing sky. Patricia is all happy as usual, but Joe then reminds her that he has a brain cloud and is still going to die. She says, ‘Well, maybe you won’t. Did you get a second opinion?’ He didn’t. (Turns out, the doctor that told him about the brain cloud is Patricia’s Dad’s doctor and the truth is he lied.) She says, ‘You didn’t get a second opinion about something called a brain cloud? I mean what are you Joe, some kind of a hypochondriac?’

So now, he’s not going to die, never was, they’re married, floating on these amazing steamer trunks, there’s this gorgeous full moon, very romantic and Joe says, ‘Still. Here we are. In the middle of the ocean…’ And she says, ‘It’s always going to be something with you Joe isn’t it.’

My point in all this is, no matter how bad you feel, or how bad things look, if you sit back and relax for just a bit a path WILL light up for you. No matter how hard you fight back, no matter how negative you are, if you can just stop for a moment, just try to pivot those thoughts, the Universe will send you something to help you out. So why not…

Relax and look for your trunks.

In Munay…

The Main Event…It’s all about the Flow.


Believe it or not, Contrast is a good thing. One of the definitions of contrast is ‘a marked difference in two things.’ So, contrast is the difference between that which we do like or want and that which we don’t like or want. Unfortunately, as humans, we tend to get a bit angry when we come across things in our lives that we don’t want. We say things like, “What did I do wrong to bring this bad thing in to my life?!” Most of us immediately go negative. But what if we looked at it from another direction?

According to Abraham-Hicks, “You want the desire because it is the idea or the goal or the Creation that is responsible for a good amount of Life Force to flow through you.” In other words, we want the contrast to help us see what it is we don’t want so we can then see what it is we do want and start summoning more of that to us. Let’s look even deeper, shall we?

I tell this story all the time. Years ago, my dear friend and I were at an Abraham-Hicks workshop. We were on our lunch break and ran across the street to a bookstore. It was getting time to get back to the workshop so we got in line to check out. That’s when that contrast…and our typical human reaction…set in. There were a couple of problems at the checkout counter. I think the guy was new, the register tape was out, things weren’t ringing up correctly, etc. In other words, we were going to be late getting back to the Workshop. And I remember thinking, “What the heck! We’re at an AH Workshop! How can anything be going wrong! We are surrounded by the most awesome energy ever!” I couldn’t believe this negativity was entering our lives at that moment. But then we started talking about it. What if the whole checkout process was slow simply in order to cause us to ‘not want’ something, so that we then knew what we ‘did want.’ For example, I’ve put it out in to the Universe that I want to live a long, healthy life. So what if the checkout counter backup was so I didn’t step in to the road crossing the street and get hit by a car driven by a guy changing his cassette tape (dating myself, I know…).

Now, as my study of this wonderful thing called Law of Attraction has deepened, I’ve really starting looking at it from an even different perspective. What if it wasn’t even about keeping me alive? What if the contrast is there for an even better reason? What if….

The main event is the Life Force that is flowing through you, not the manifestation at all?

In other words. It’s all about the Flow.

In Munay…