Make a decision…then make it right.


I don’t know about you, but sometimes I have a hell of a time making the ‘right’ decision. I weigh the pros and cons. I make lists. I talk to people. I tell others about my thought process behind the decision. I ask others for advice. I read reviews that have something to do with that decision. I do research… In other words, I do everything but make the decision. I get this indecisiveness from my mother. (You should have seen her try to pick out tile, wallpaper, carpet, or even a Christmas tree…) But lately I’ve been trying to change. And one of the things that has helped me is this quote:

“Make a decision and then make the decision right. Line up your Energy with it. In most cases, it doesn’t really matter what you decide. Just decide. There are endless options that would serve you enormously well, and all or any one of them is better than no decision.”

You see, when we’re in that mode of trying to decide, we’re still just not deciding. So we’re holding all the good stuff at bay. We are in a state of resistance. As you’ve undoubtedly heard me say before, Universe/God/Spirit whatever you choose to call It is in divine order and is just waiting for you to let it know what you want so it can start to provide it for you. But when we’re in a state of indecisiveness, or resistance, the Universe has to sit back and wait to see what it is we decide on before It can give it to us.

So, instead of weighing, and asking, and telling, and researching, why not simply ask yourself WHAT it is you really want and WHY you really want it? Then go with that first instinct. Follow your gut. Listen to your heart. Look within for the answer instead of outside of yourself. That’s where the truth lies. That’s where you’ll find the ‘right’ decision. And, if it starts off as the ‘right’ decision, it’s pretty easy to line up with it.

The Universe will take over if you just make a decision. Why not make the decision to make a decision…

and let the Universe make it right.

In Munay…

Loosen your grip.


Have you ever noticed that when you want something to work out for you, you hold on really, really tightly to the thought of it and the outcome of it? You fixate on it happening. You imagine it over and over in your head. You talk about it. You hold on to the vision of it. You dream about it. Basically, you keep it around you.

Now, have you noticed you do the same with those things that you want to get rid of? Just like those things we want to manifest, we hold on really tightly to those things we want to get rid of. Think about it. Think about that person who did you wrong, or that bad thing that happened to you. You go over and over the situation in your head. You tell the Universe What happened. You tell the Universe When this thing happened. You tell the Universe How you feel about it happening. All in an attempt to show Universe that, “See! It was his fault! I didn’t do anything wrong! It was all him! Now make it go away!”

Sometimes, we want to improve our situation so badly that we feel we have to explain the entire problem in tiny detail to anyone and everyone who will listen, just so we’re sure Universe completely understands the problem. In other words, we keep it around ourselves….

We hold on tightly to the thing we want to let go of.

Why not, instead of holding so tightly to the thing we want to let go of, we simply loosen our grip?


In Munay…

So, What’s your story?

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When you’re a Shamanic Practitioner you learn to listen to those tiny little voices in your head (and you all thought they meant you were crazy, right?). So yesterday I was talking with someone about spending time each day to write about or just talk about everything you appreciate. As I was thinking about it later, it starting morphing into telling your story the way you want it to be. In other words, by appreciating everything around you, you’re telling the Universe what you want more of. As I was getting ready to start my day this morning, I was trying to figure out what to write about because nothing had come to me yet (or so I thought…) So, I get to my office and like always I pull a Law of Attraction card and get this…

“I will tell my story as I want it to be…”

Yea, so the Universe is indeed guiding you. It kind of latches on to the ideas you put out there and gives you more and more and more of the things that match those ideas. So doesn’t it make sense that you should be telling it what you actually do want more and more and more of?

You’re telling your story all day, every day. Think about it. When someone says, “How’s it going?” Your answer is telling your story. When you sit down with your significant other at the end of the day and he/she says, “How was your day?” Your answer is telling your story. When you’re sitting in your office talking to yourself about how much work this is and how you’re never going to get it done… You’re telling your story.

I use my computer and phone for my calendar, as opposed to a physical planner. I do have a physical, paper planner, but I use it as a place to ‘tell my story.’ Every day I use that planner to write down things that I loved/appreciated/found joy in that day. Nothing else goes in to that planner. Nothing negative can go in to that planner. In that planner, I’m telling the Universe/Spirit/God…your choice…what I want more and more and more of.

Some people might say that’s too hard. That their day just doesn’t have enough good stuff in it to write down. My question to those people is…

So what’s your story?

In Munay…

Follow your heart….not someone else’s.


Yesterday I had several just awesome sessions with clients. The messages I’m able to help them get are often just so profound that I walk away smiling for hours afterwards. As I sat thinking about it last night, I realized that there was a theme to the day. It was all about listening to your heart and doing what was right for you…not what was right for someone else. I also realized just how hard that can be sometimes. How painful it can be to do what is right for yourself and possibly hurt someone else in the process.

We are taught not to be selfish (well, most of us were anyway…). We’re taught to treat others kindly, to ‘do onto others as we would have done onto ourselves.’ (Not sure if I got that completely right, but you all know the saying…) But sometimes, when we’ve been doing that for so long, we end up putting everyone else first and thereby lose ourselves. We get so good at making sure everyone around us is happy and doing what they want and getting what they want, that we suddenly realize that we ourselves are completely unhappy, or living an unauthentic life. Not the one we were supposed to be living or wanted to be living. We look up one day and find ourselves in the middle of a life, or relationship, or job, or environment and can’t figure out how we got there. Only then do we maybe look around and see how that happened. How we were so busy making the life that maybe others wanted us to….or the life that society wants us to…

That we forgot to make the life we wanted for ourselves.

I’ve touched on this issue before when talking about caregiving. You have to take care of yourself first, or you’re no good to anyone else. It’s the same thing here. If you don’t create the life you yourself want, you’re not giving all of yourself to the people around you. And, when you finally do realize how unhappy you are, it may end up being a bigger issue to fix than it would have been to speak your truth from the beginning. In other words, be kind, but

Follow your heart. Not someone else’s.


In Munay…