Action. It’s not all it’s cracked up to be.


There’s this great quote by Rumi…

“When I run after what I think I want, my days are a furnace of stress and anxiety; if I sit in my own place of patience, what I need flows to me and without pain.”

Abraham-Hicks talks about this all the time too. Don’t take action until that action comes easily to you. Until that action seems completely logical. Until that action flows effortlessly from you. What they’re saying is, it doesn’t always serve you to take action right away. Especially if you’re coming from a place of desperation. It’s better if you listen (see last week’s blog…)…

and wait for the right path to light up for you.

As we all know by now, the Law of Attractions states “That which is like, on to itself is drawn.” So, the things you want, the things you desire, the things you’ve ‘put out there’, are already on their way to you. The three-step process is: 1. Ask, 2. Universe answers and it’s on its way to you, 3. Get out of the way.

That step three is the part where you wait and watch the path light up for you and guide you to those things you want. When we immediately take frenzied action, we tend to veer off the path. We find ourselves trying to force something to happen. We find ourselves in a place of stress and anxiety because the things we want to happen are not happening, or the things we want to come to us aren’t coming. But here’s the thing, Universe is providing it in a better way than we can possibly imagine, and…

By taking frenzied action, we’re mucking up the process.

What if we followed the three steps to the letter. What if we asked, then knew those things we asked for were on their way. And then, what if we sat back with delicious expectation and watched and listened until we saw that perfect path light up and guide us to those things Universe is providing? What if we didn’t take action…

Until that action was effortless.

In Munay….

The Art of Listening


In my Shamanic Practice I use a variety of tools with my clients. I use stones, essential oils, rattles, pendulums, and crystals. But I also use my sense of hearing and I ask my clients to do the same. And really, it’s not so much hearing as it is listening. So the goal of this Energy Therapy…as I like to call it…is to help my clients find a new map for their lives, or a healed state. In a session, yes, we let go of a bunch of negative, non-productive stuff. But we also look for that new path forward. And, in order to find that path…

We have to listen from within.

So after I use all the paraphernalia mentioned above, my client gets off the table and we talk…and we listen. I ask them to ‘drop in’, get quiet, shut their mind off, and just listen to whatever answers come up as I’m asking the questions they want to know. I’m asking them to listen to their Source. It’s not an easy thing to do. Our mind, or actually our left brain, gets in the way. That part of our brain that is practical and already ‘knows’ things. That part of the brain that ‘knows better’ can really get in the way. And, when I’m asking clients to ‘listen’ and tell me what they see, feel, or hear, they often hold back because that thing they’re seeing, feeling, or hearing doesn’t make any sense to them. Well, it doesn’t make any sense to their left brain. That left brain knows that’s not the right answer because maybe it doesn’t fit in with what left brain thinks you should do.

But what if the answer you get when you truly listen from within, is exactly what you need to do? Guess what? It is. It’s your Source guiding you. We’ve talked about your feelings and emotions and how you need to use them to guide you. If something feels bad, don’t do it! If something makes you deliriously happy, do it! But what I find is that sometimes we just complicate things too much. I sometimes find myself saying, “Well, how does this make me feel? I can figure out how I feel about this!” And I get all confused because left brain is in there trying to make me do the ‘right thing.’ It’s at those times that I’ve learned to drop in and listen.

Now I know I’ve had more training in this than the average person, but trust me, we can all listen and we can all hear what Source is trying to tell us. The next time you’re trying to make a decision…should I start that new business venture, should I end this relationship, should I take that class, should I schedule that vacation…and you can’t seem to do it, I invite you to find a quiet place to sit. I invite you to relax. I invite you to drop in to yourself. I invite you to ask the questions. And then…

I invite you to listen.

I guarantee you, you’ll hear something. And, you’ll know it’s right.

In Munay….

I am…


A couple of weeks ago I wrote a blog about not being mean (If You Can’t Say Anything Nice…). I wanted to add to that a bit and say that that includes to yourself. So, I may be speaking more to the women in the crowd, but how many of us say mean things to ourselves? Answer this. When you wake up in the morning and look in the mirror, what do you say? Unfortunately, my guess is, it’s not “Morning Beautiful!” My guess is it’s more along the lines of, “Ugh! I look like shit. Look at those wrinkles.” Or, “Well here comes another lovely hair day. NOT!” And then you may go and step on the scale and say, “Holy crap! I’m a cow!” Or something along those lines… Well,

You need to stop that.

Remember the Law of Attraction. What you ‘put out there’ comes back to you. So what are you putting out there when you wake up in the morning and say things like that to yourself? You’re basically asking the Universe for old, wrinkled skin, bad hair, and to weigh as much as a cow. Is that really what you want?

In all my years studying the Law of Attraction, I have continually come across what I call the “I AM” practice. When we wake up in the morning, or any time actually, and tell the Universe what we ‘are,’ the Universe says, “Got it! Let me go get that for you!” The Universe doesn’t say, “Oh, Honey! That’s not what you want to ask for!” (It would be helpful if it did…) It just gives you what you focus on. So when you say, “I am fat. I am old. I am ugly.” That’s what the Universe is bringing you more of.

What if, you woke up in the morning and said, “I am happy! I am healthy! I am beautiful! I am vibrant! I am fun! I am strong! I am abundant! I am successful! I am prosperous!” What if, right now, you made a list of everything you are? All the wonderful, fantastic, outrageous, beautiful, loving things that you are. Can you imagine what would happen? So, I ask you…

What are you?

In Munay….

You Win Some, You Lose Some.

Stones Balance

Like most of the people I know, I watched the Super Bowl last night. One team won, one team lost. That’s how it usually works. This morning while on FB (remember, love-hate relationship…) I saw something a friend posted. It was a video of the quarterback from the losing team at his post-game press conference. He was clearly not happy. Understandable. However, he handled the conference with 3 to 4 mumbled ‘No’s’ and then stood up and walked out.

In life, we often find there’s a winner and a loser. Maybe someone beats you out for a promotion, or maybe you lose to some ‘situation.’ Whatever. Often in life, someone or something wins and someone or something loses.

Now, I know losing sucks. It hurts. We’ve all been there. Whether it was in a team situation, or that life situation. When you lose, it sucks. You feel bad. You’re unbelievably disappointed. You’re frustrated. You’re confused. You’re just freakin’ pissed! On the other side, when you win, you feel elated! You’re happy as hell! You’re on top of the world! You’re filled with joy! You feel good about yourself! But here’s the thing…

How you choose to lose, or to win makes all the difference in your world.

What if the next time you lost something, you reached for a feeling of grace? What if you tried to find the lesson in the loss and use it in the future? What if you tried to find something to appreciate in the loss? What if you congratulated yourself for making it as far as you did? What if you turned your frustration around and congratulated your opponent for making you perform better? What if you challenged yourself to do better next time?

What if the next time you won, you were humble? What if you took the time to thank everyone that helped you win? What if you didn’t shove it in the face of the team or person you beat? What if you turned to your opponent and thanked him for a great competition?

You win some, you lose some.

How, is up to you.

In Munay….

If You Can’t Say Anything Nice…


“If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.” Raise your hand if you heard that 1000 times from your mother when you were growing up. I know I did. So, I spend a lot of time on FB. It’s kind of a love-hate thing. I love that it keeps me connected to some of my friends and I love that it helps me grow my business. But I absolutely HATE all the meanness and negativity. People can be mean as hell up there! If they don’t like something or someone, they’re plastering it all over the place. Doesn’t matter if it’s an athlete or a corporation, they are saying nasty things. Or, look at the politicians going at each other this year (or any year for that matter). They’re so mean to one another. It’s not about how they’re going to help our country, it’s about how much the other guy sucks. Bottom line…

We are surrounded by meanness.

I’ve blogged about the “fighting against” before, and this is along those same lines. If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all. Because, if you’re saying something mean, you’re fighting against that thing. And you’re just mean. If you read that earlier blog, you know that by fighting against something, all you’re doing is keeping it in your vibration. And if ‘meanness’ is in your vibration, how do you think you’re going to feel? What do you think that’s going to attract to you? Yep, more negativity, more mean people, and more things to be mean about.

I don’t know about you, but I’m kind of sick of all the bashing. With so much meanness in the world, I’m looking to say something nice…

Or nothing at all.

In Munay….